Friday, September 07, 2012

Who knew?

The Wee One turns four this coming week.  As every parent ever on the face of the planet has said - Time flies too quickly!  I was doing a little reminiscing and scrolling through some pictures I have posted over the past 4 years.  One in particular stood out because it is SOOOOO The Wee One.

Who knew that personalities developed so early?  I know, I know.  Many people say your personality doesn't really develop until you are older, but now, after having a kid, I think that's gotta be wrong.  The Wee One has had a very distinct personality since birth and the picture below reaffirms that for me. 


So the caption I had put under this photo back in 2009 when it was taken was "Well, you see, this is what happened..."  Okay, not only does she still do this expression and hand gesture, but she actually says, "Well, you see..." All the time. 

Who knew?  I guess she did.

This is the crazy Wee One now:

 
I think we'd better prepare ourselves for the future - watch out world!  hahaha

Tuesday, August 28, 2012

Audience participation time...

I am working on a new assignment for my class this semester and would like to elicit help from you all.  I have decided that it would be a good activity to review some blogs and analyze them for appropriate/inappropriate self-disclosure.  (I have to miss class one day and thought this might be a good out-of-class assignment). 

What I would love is to gather some suggestions of a variety of different blog styles from people who may know of some interesting blogs.  Many of the ones I follow on a regular basis have a Christian component and/or family based, and I don't want to only provide suggestions for blogs that talk about one particular faith or one issue.  I would ultimately like to provide a suggestion list of blogs that cover a multitude of topics yet that still include some aspect of self-disclosure.

If you have favorite blogs that you think would have interesting topics, please leave me a note letting me know the address.  I'm curious to see what my students feel is appropriate or inappropriate for online sharing.  : )

Thank you in advance for your participation.  (Does that inspire you to help me?  I hope so.)

Saturday, July 21, 2012

Memorable moments

Have you ever noticed how the most embarrassing moments often end up being your most memorable?  The other night I was visiting with a friend and found myself recounting one of my most embarrassing moments and I had to chuckle.  Partially because the situation was so bizarre for me, and partially because it has stayed with me so vividly through the years.  So enjoy a quick laugh and I hope it's not too disturbing to anyone reading.  hahaha

This little tale involves my grandparents who are now in their late 80's.  This was about 7 or 8 years ago so they were in their early 80's at the time.  Let me give you a little background on my grandparents...

My grandfather was a military career man - 30 years in the Army...a retired colonel, a West Point graduate...and is a rough-around-the-edges know-it-all.  My grandmother is a slightly head-in-the-clouds, stereo-typical 50's mom.  So hopefully you've got an image in your mind of these two.  Also, let's keep in mind that they are MY GRANDPARENTS!

So - 7 or 8 years back, The Husband and I came to Austin for Christmas.  We were spending Christmas Eve with my family at my grandparent's house and then heading to his family's for Christmas Day.  December 23rd, my grandfather comes to me and asks me to drive him to the mall so he can get a present for my grandmother.  I think, "How sweet that he wants to get her something special, even if he did wait till the last minute."  Oh my...

We go to Beall's (the department store of choice for those over 65) and he tells me, "I want to get your grandmother and nice nightgown."  Cool - no problem.  I walk him to the ladies section and start showing him a few items.  Here's what I'm thinking...


"Nope, not what I'm looking for - I want something sexy for her."  This is when I start to get a little freaked...seriously.

At this point, the sales associate has noticed us and comes to offer her assistance.  "May I help you find something?" she asks, ever so innocently.  My grandfather says, "I sure hope so.  I want to find something sexy for my wife." 

She looks at him quizzically, kind of giggles and leads him to the same types of items I had shown him.  "What do you think of this?"  


"Not what I'm looking for.  I want to find something super sexy for my wife."

The associate and I both have expressions of total freaked-out humor if you can have such a thing.  Let me say, it's cool if they still have a sex life - go grandparents - but I DO NOT WANT or NEED to know about it.  So...we show him some "sexier" items...


"Still not what I'm wanting.  I want SEXY!"

Finally, I get what he's really wanting and it is not something that I would have EVER thought I would purchase with my grandfather...for my 80 year old grandmother.  We eventually left the store with a garment that was something like this...


Trust me my friends...these are memories that last forever.



Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Anniversary - Burgess Style

This past month was our 9 year anniversary.  It is hard to believe we've been together for 12 years (3 before we got married).  In some ways it feels like there is no way it could possibly be that long and in others it seems like we've just always been together.  Kind of cool.  So to celebrate, we decided we would escape the heat and head to Colorado.  We left The Wee One to the trusted care of Darma and Cozmos' and headed to cooler weather.
Day 1:  Drove to Buena Vista, CO to stay at the Mt. Princeton Hot Springs Resort.  Talk about relaxing.  Nothing will soothe your body like a dip in a hot spring.  Warning...when there are 3 springs in descending order, go ahead and avoid the first unless you feel the need for an instant skin peel.  Spa #3 seemed to be plenty hot for me. 

We did a nice dinner at the lodge, which we split partially because it was pricey and partially because neither of us were that hungry.  Let me just say DELICIOUS!  Brochette topped with shrimp.  Thick steak - topped with jumbo shrimp.  Baby veggies.  Garlic mashed potatoes.  YUM!

The plan had been to go whitewater rafting the next day, but The Husband wasn't feeling well and was coughing a ton so we decided to put it off a couple of days to see if he rebounded.
Day 2:  Drove to Aspen, CO.  Absolutely beautiful drive up Independence Pass, but I feel I somehow cheated death.  What the heck is with the state not putting guard rails up on high mountain passes?  And really...dropping to a single lane?  Those things wouldn't have been so bad if it weren't for the crazy-ass cyclists who seemed to think that hairpin turns every 20 feet on a descending, in-some-parts-one-lane road was a good choice for a bike ride.  Gheesh!  I should also state that The Husband has had a previous history of playing with gadgets like a GPS while driving on mountain roads.  The soothing aspect of the hot springs were gone mid-way up the pass.  Really what was freaking me out was the thought of coming back down at the crack of dawn in 2 days to go rafting.  Regardless, it was beautiful and the top was magnificent.  Worth the terrifying moments for sure.
We'd never been to Aspen and after finding a good hotel deal online (the Molly Gibson was great although there is no relation to Debbie Gibson as far as we could tell), we though it might be a nice visit.  We were impressed.  It really wasn't what we expected.  There is without question serious money up there, but most of the locals we experienced were super sweet and down-to-earth.  The town is very pedestrian and old.  I had no idea it had such an old history.  There are so many buildings from the late 1800's/early 1900's still around.  Very cool.  We spent the afternoon just walking around and enjoying some really yummy food.  Annette's Mountain Bake Shop is awesome!  The turkey sandwich was so good we went back the next day for another.

Day 3:  A nice leisurely morning.  Honestly, the best part of the trip was the lack of a certain person.  Although I love that little darling more than just about anything, getting away from the constant interruptions and typical almost-4-yr-old behavior gives me a chance to miss her and love her that much more.  We decided to go to Maroon Bells to hike the area and take pictures.  WOW!  Breath-taking views and crisp mountain air.  Even with the ridiculous wind that was blowing that day it was wonderful.  I might have looked a little odd to some as I hiked with my foam ear plugs, but I wasn't about to let the cold wind prevent me from that hike.
We took the Crater Lake hike which we found out later is about 3.9 miles round trip.  For some of you that might be a breeze, but I live at a significantly lower altitude and I'm not in top shape.  However, I am a firm believer in the "slow and stead" style of hiking and though it may take me longer than others, I still get to get see the same views once I reach the top.  I actually feel like I get to see more of them because instead of pushing myself relentlessly to reach the top, I stop occasionally to appreciate what I'm seeing around me as I go.  (It's a great excuse to catch your breath as well).  So, after about a 45 min -1 hr hike up, we reached the lake.  It was in a sweet little meadow and it was a great place to just chill for a bit.  If we had planned better it would have been perfect to lunch up there. 

Day 4:  Drove back through the pass...not as bad as I had imagined...and get ready for our rafting trip.  Since we changed days, we had shortened it to a 1/2 day down The Numbers.  When the water is up, this is a pretty exhilarating ride.  We did it about 7 years ago and loved it.  This year however, the water is down.  It was still fun, but much, much more technical.  The guide had warned us that we would have to "work" a little more to avoid rocks and hit the spots right.  I will say without shame that I was SORE the next day - actually that evening. 
Let me tell you about this little adventure.  This was my 7th time rafting and I figure that if you go enough, something is bound to happen, right?  So, coming out of Number 5, we had been doing great.  Then somehow, within a matter of seconds, that changed.  Our raft came up to a large boulder in the wrong position. We hit it directly in the middle of the raft and heard the guide yell "HIGHSIDE".  We all moved quickly, but it was too late.  The raft was taking on water and it filled completely in a matter of literally seconds.  There were 5 in our raft, including the guide, and soon we were all balancing awkwardly on the boulder while the water rushed around us and the now completely filled raft. 

There was supposed to be another couple but they had gone to the wrong location so we had been joined by 2 trainees.  Thank goodness.  After several minutes of trying to dislodge the raft and assessing the situation, a man who had been fishing near by came along side the shore.  Our guide decided to send us customers to shore so he threw a rope to the fisherman, hooked a caribeaner to it and told me to "zipline" through the rushing water downstream to shore.  I gotta admit, my first reaction (internally) was "WHAT?  You seriously want me to hold that tiny little piece of metal and glide through this pounding water?"  My external reaction was, "Okay".  Once I sat down on the rock and dropped into the water it was kind of fun and over in a few seconds.  The Husband came next and the trainees stayed on the rock to do what they could while the guide came ashore to maneuver the rope in an attempt to get leverage. 
This took somewhere between 30-45 minutes.  Lots of different attempts and eventually lots of different advice coming form other guides who started showing up with their crews waiting to get past us.  I felt so bad for the trainees (did I mention they were both girls and totally rocked girl power that day).  The water was COLD and they were stuck in it for half an hour.  One girl's hands were bright red from having to reach into the water so much to attach the rope in different places. 

At last they attempted a technique of paritally deflating a side of the raft.  This action and the trainees were able to "bounce" it up enough for the rope-pulley set-up to work.  Once free we all got back in the raft and continued on our trip.  Pretty uneventful after that.  The Husband was stoked about it..."This is so cool."  It really was - especially after I determined that we were all gonna make it without injury or death (picture post rafting - all safe and sound).  We drove to Amarillo to relieve my parents and slept so soundly it was unreal.


All-in-all, it was a WONDERFUL anniversary and a much needed trip.  After the current (and hopefully last-for-at-least-5-years) move, we need another big trip but maybe we can skip the near-death experiences. 

Friday, June 01, 2012

A Personal Experience

Disclaimer:  This post may contain material that could be upsetting to some readers as it discusses my experience with a miscarriage.  There are many reasons I have decided to make this post, but I know that some people may not feel comfortable reading this encounter.

In January, I found out I was pregnant. We had been trying so we were super excited and after our first visit to the doctor, we made the official announcement to the world - i.e., Facebook post. I was full swing into stereotypical first trimester symptoms including extreme tiredness and heavy nausea. Everything was going as expected until our second visit to the doctor. 
During this routine visit, we got the bad news. First we couldn't find the heartbeat which then sent us to get an ultrasound. We struggled with the doctor as she didn't seem to be able to demonstrate any confidence in the matter, but ultimately, we knew the result - the baby had died. 

We did a second ultrasound the following day to verify the result with the tech.  The Husband and I both knew, but it was something I needed to see since I hadn't had any indications of something going wrong.  Once we got the final result, it was determined that the baby actually died a few days after our first doctor's visit.  By this point it was about 4 weeks after the fact and my body was not releasing the fetus - technical term is a missed miscarriage.  We talked to the doctor about our options: a D and C surgical procedure or a medication to force the miscarriage and pass it at home.  As I am not a fan of surgery unless absolutely necessary so we decided to do the at-home option on Friday night while The Wee One spent the night with family.

Tuesday night (the night we found out) was pretty rough.  Wednesday was kind of a fog.  Thursday we both went back to work.  Friday we sent The Wee One off and then went out to eat.  We had decided to cremate the remains so we went to find a vase and seal-able container.  The Husband ran to the store to get pain killers, juice, movies and pads to make sure we had things on hand to make me feel as comfortable as possible. 

Disclaimer: This next part may be graphic for some regarding the actual miscarriage.  I decided to include this because it was so helpful for me to be able to find some explanation of what was going to happen before I took the pills. 

Since we had decided to cremate the remains, I had to make sure I caught the discharge in something.  I had a small bucket and we had bought a ladle to use.  This is also something that is suggested by doctors to make sure you fully miscarried.  Once I took the medication it took about an hour for it to take affect.  Heavy cramping and pain in my lower back like I had when I started contractions with my first child started and I could tell it was time so I went to the restroom and set up my system to catch the discharge.  What they had told us to look for was a sac.  They said the fetus should be in the sac unless it had ruptured and then the fetus might be separate.  For me, the fetus was separate and came out first.  This will sound incredibly odd to some, but for me, this was a very peaceful moment.  I was able to see my child and say a little prayer before I placed the baby into the box we planned to use for the cremation.  The Husband chose not to look and I understand that.  The sac actually passed a little later.  I was extremely grateful as one of my friends who had experienced this situation had had horrible pain leading up to the passing.  Bleeding is expected and normal as long as it's not excessive.   

The morning was odd.  I had this expectation that I would be just devastated and not want to do anything.  It wasn't like for me though.  I woke up and had a relieved feeling - I think mostly because I knew that part was past me now.  Overall, emotionally I recovered quickly. 

I struggled for about 2-3 weeks, more with the fact that I wasn't down-in-the-dumps about the miscarriage than about the actual miscarriage itself.  Of course, I had moments of sadness about the situation, but ultimately, I knew that God was in control and that for reasons I may never know, now was not the time for me to have a baby.  I had people (a surprising number) telling me about their experiences and it made me feel awkward (and sometimes down-right bad) that I wasn't experiencing the same level of sadness that they had felt.  I started to wonder if something was wrong with me.  Was I just suppressing my emotions?  Did I lack a motherly instinct of some kind? 

Finally, I came to the realization that that's just me.  It's how I deal with things.  My emotions come out over things like Hallmark commercials or sappy songs.  The serious things in my life seem to affect me differently.  I will fret like crazy over something to come, but once it's happened and I can't do anything about it, I am okay letting it go.  I'm not saying this is good or bad.  It's just what works for me.  There is nothing wrong with this.  When dealing with something like this, whatever emotion you have, it's okay. 

Ultimately, I still feel blessed in my life.  I have a wonderful husband who loves me.  I have an adorable little girl who makes me laugh.  I have family and friends who are extremely precious to me.  I have a job that allows me be a professional and get to spend time with my child.  I have a good home.  God is good and He always takes care of me - even when I don't know how His plan is working.